Virtues of a Christian Spouse

I used to go to a Korean church in Chicago that believed in arranged marriages. They called it “marriage by faith”. The way it worked was that your bible teacher or head pastor would recommend someone for you to marry and you were strongly encouraged to marry them. This Korean church was very authoritarian. They followed a Confucius concept of obeying. I did not believe in that. That is one of many reasons why I left this church. I always had the desire to marry someone that God placed in my path.

It was very important for me to marry a Christian woman. It really did not matter to me what denomination, as long as they were Christian and God fearing. As a Christian couple, like many other marriages, we go through our ups and downs. It is not easy. But I cannot imagine how much harder it is to marry someone who is not from your faith. It is even worse I believe, if they do not even believe in God. 

I married a Christian because of the following reasons.

Honesty, helpfulness and caring.

A calmer temperament.

Most likely no promiscuous behavior prior to marriage (although no one is perfect).

No alcohol or use of drugs

Not materialistic.

Faithful, loving, family oriented.

Prayerful

Most Christians should adopt the qualities of Jesus Christ. Jesus is loving, sacrificial, tender, peaceful, patient, kind, resolute and above all, forgiving. These are just a few of the qualities of a Christian spouse. To those who are seeking or young, do not rush things. Have faith in God. He will give you the desire of your heart. I got married in my early 30’s. It was God's time--the perfect time.

Addiction: Alcohol and Meth

Gluttony is the over-indulgence and over-consumption of food, drink, or intoxicants to the point of waste.

This past Wednesday, before going to work I had to stop by a Jewish school to get some books they were donating to our school library. I had to park in a parking meter but because I had no change with me to feed the meter I ran to the nearest Walgreen’s. To my dismay sitting in front of the store was a homeless young man begging for money. He was no older than 25 years, wearing black shorts and a gray shirt with stubble on his face. As I passed by him he asked me for money and when I ignored him he said something that perturbed me “God bless you sir.”

Upon my return I had to ask him about his situation. Normally I do not talk to people on the streets but I just needed to know why he was there. “What is wrong with you?” I asked him. “You are young and in this condition?” Thinking that he was going to try to lie he was instead very blunt. He told me he was a "meth" addict. His addiction had caused him to lose his job and his home. He also got thrown out of the rehab clinic and he was begging for money to support his eleven dollar a day habit. He said “I’m f---ed up, man.” I did not know what to say. I was thinking that he was just a lazy bum. But instead he had a very bad addiction that had ruined his life. Thoughts raced through my head. What would Jesus do in this case? How could Jesus help someone who was addicted to chemicals? It sounded like a very tough situation.

But then God made me think. Why am I judging this man? None of us are perfect. Most of us will not be addicted to illegal drugs. But I do not think anyone is exempt from being addicts to the things that cause us to sin and separate us from God. Even non-drug addictions have the potential to destroy our lives. Some people may be addicted to watching television, listening to music, gambling, drinking, eating, porn and even blogging. For sometime I too was caught in the clutches of addiction. It took me awhile before I managed to take control of my situation. I needed to identify my problem and then ask God to help me. At times reading the bible helped me a little. Going to church also helped me. But it was not enough. Then, all of a sudden I just had to turned to Jesus, as trivial as it may sound to some, that is what I did. I said, “Jesus, you are the only one that has the power to set me on the right track. I don’t know what else to do.” Up until this day whenever temptations start to lurk I just think about Jesus Christ and my temptations leave. It is true.

I was not able to share this with the young man because he saw a Chicago Police car and he had to leave the place or risk getting arrested. Although I did learn a valuable lesson. Even chemical addictions may sound too hard to overcome but God has power we cannot comprehend. A key verse that surmises all of this is Eph 5:18-20 which says "And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit.” If we allow the Holy Spirit to help us, he will. He will keep all the bad addictions away.

I'm Not Sorry for Being a Christian!

I’m not going to apologize to anyone for being a Christian. For what? Why should I apologize to the world? Should I apologize for loving Christ because he died for my sins and he saved a wretched like me? Should I apologize for knowing Jesus Christ and experiencing great freedom deep within my heart and soul? Have I committed a crime for not compromising my faith, or reconciling it with other faiths?

Society as a whole has reprimanded us Christians by telling us not to wear Christianity on our sleeves. It is bad---they say. You might offend those that are not Christian. They say "don’t pray, don’t say to anyone at work or in the street that you are Christian." Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior openly preached in the streets. He was outnumbered, but he did not care about what the people would say. If Jesus was not apologetic, neither will I be!

People are being beaten publicly within an inch of their lives for petty legalisms. Unborn babies are being killed by the hundreds and thousands across the world. Kids are shooting each other in the streets. And we should apologize for being Christian? Let’s be for real! Let us shout to the world that we are Christian and that we follow the true Prince of Peace. Accept no cheap imitations!

Amen

The Swine Flu and Christianity

The first school in Chicago to report swine flu case.

With the spread of the H1N1 virus one of the things I have been thinking a lot about is infestations in the church. All the churches in Mexico have been closed. Some schools across the country have been closed as well. One of these schools is Kilmer Elementary in Chicago, which I might add is a few blocks away from where we live and reported the very first case of swine flu in Chicago. Loyola University which is also in Rogers Park had a student with swine flu. So these cases are really hitting home.

The last time I was in the Baptist Church of Rogers Park, we did the handshake thing, as well as communion, where people eat a small wafer and drink from small cups. When I was growing up Catholic back in the 70’s I would see about 100 people all drink ‘wine’ from the same cup! Even at that young age seeing that grossed me out. Maybe that is why I’ve never participated in Holy Communion. But then again what are other Christians to do during these times? I do not have an answer. Just many questions. I’ve been avoiding large gatherings like the plague--pun intended. Including church.

My Princess strolling through the courtyard.

About two years ago my daughter got very sick with what the doctor said was hand, foot, and mouth disease, caused by the Coxsackie virus. Seeing my princess suffer through such an ordeal broke my heart to pieces. She had painful blisters and a high fever for at least 5 days. When thinking about it, she either got it at the playground (highly unlikely because it was winter time) or the play toys in another church we used to attend. I was very upset to say the least. And that is the thing, most people are careless and inconsiderate. And unfortunately, we Christians are not exempt from these bad habits. We should know better. If I had a penny for every time I saw an adult sneeze or cough in front of me without covering their face I would be a rich man. Truly disgusting! If the swine flu becomes a true pandemic, God forbid, I hope people start getting arrested on the spot for spreading their germs.

It may sound trivial but President Barack Obama was right, the key to stopping the spread of these communicable diseases is for people to have common sense, common courtesy and at least a trickle of decency for hygiene. Just a trickle. Because asking for more is just asking for too much.